Since the last time I wrote, we have experienced many ups and downs in the Southern experience. My stepdaughter called one night, very upset, and said she didn’t like it at Southern and wanted to come home. We listened to her frustrations and tried to understand where she was coming from. However, when all was said and done, we all (her mom, my husband, and myself) encouraged her to stay. After all, she had already begun classes and we didn’t want her class credit (and the accompanying dollars) to go to waste. We felt strongly that it was important for her to learn the skill of sticking with something, even when it is uncomfortable or unpleasant. This is a critical part of growing up; being strong enough to not walk away when you desperately wish you could.
Since then, her demeanor has seemed positive, and she seems to be adjusting. However, to be honest, it is difficult to know for sure at times, because she has always been one who is quiet and keeps very much to herself. This is frustrating for me, because I am very open with people, especially my family and closest friends. We literally have to pull information out of my stepdaughter, and usually when we ask how something is going, the answer is, “Fine.” And we can only hope that it truly is!
I was proud one day to receive a text message (the communication mode of choice!) that said she had gotten an A on her precalculus test. I have taken precalculus myself (yes, many years ago, but I feel sure it has not changed much), and I know that it takes much concentration and hard work. It is not a class that can be easily breezed through! So we are proud of her accomplishment.
How the grades in her other classes are going, I’m afraid I don’t know. We have asked her many times to please sign the form to release her grades to us. She says she keeps forgetting. As of the time of this writing, I have not seen any grades, but I trust she is doing her best!
Another downer was that the job that finally had come her way went away! Apparently they did not have enough work to justify a student worker, so they had to let her go. We are frustrated that she is back to square one on the job situation. We know there is a job out there somewhere for her, and we pray every day that God will guide her to it. It is a must in our family’s financial picture.
In the meantime, we also pray that her decisions regarding friends, time, studies, priorities, will also be guided by Him. We know that is the only way to be successful.