I love my Parent Handbook and Planner given to us by the University. It sits right beside my computer. I also keep a copy of my daughter's class schedule close by. At first Hannah said it was almost as if I was stalking her. I don't see it that way at all. I don't feel compelled to know every detail of her day (that would be somewhat unhealthy, I think), but I do like to have an idea of the highlights of her experiences. It is a connection to her that helps me to know what she is facing day by day, and gives me a more intelligent way I can pray for her as well. Now that some time has passed, I think Hannah is seeing it like that as well.
Several events have transpired that I know about because of the Parent Planner. The Chinese Acrobats came on October 12th to give a demonstration (and a double convocation credit.) Hannah went to see it, but in the whirlwind of days never mentioned it to me in e-mails or FaceBook. A few days later when I talked with her on the phone, I asked about it. Oh, yes, she did get to go to the performance and said it was amazing. Our family had seen a similar demonstration many years ago at Epcot in Orlando, FL. This SAU performance brought back wonderful memories we got to share as we spoke that day by phone. If I hadn't known about the performance, that moment of connection would have been lost for some time.
With the Parent Planner I also know when her Wind Symphony performances will take place. This is a bit more challenging to deal with. In all her 10 years of music performances, my husband and/or I have always been present at each one. October 17th was her first college performance and the first one that neither of us could attend. In some ways I was sad - but then again, we are also so happy that she is able to follow her dream to play flute in a symphony. I prayed for her (and the Wind Symphony) many times on October 17th - including twice during the time I knew they were performing. I also knew she still had a lot of support present in the audience. Several friends, her wonderful roommate, and her older brother (also at SAU) were there to cheer her on - and take pictures and some short video clips of her playing.
I know I won't be able to make most of these college performances; that is how life moves on as our children grow - but I will be at some. My Parent Planner says that the Wind Symphony will have a Christmas Concert on December 4th. If the Lord wills and some details can work out - I do plan to try to be at that performance. I think it would be a reasonable goal to try to make it to one or two of Hannah's concerts each year.