College is fun, exciting, and full of lots of opportunities to make friends and have a good time. But college is also very busy, full of lots of homework, and can be very exhausting.
It's for those reasons that I was wanting to take a break this past weekend and either go home or spend the weekend at a friend's house. It had been a crazy week that was extremely busy due to week of prayer so I had plans to take a break and hit the road.
However, something unexpected happened this last week that changed all my plans. The mom of one of my very good friends from high school passed away. She was sick for a very long time so her death wasn't unexpected, but that doesn't make her passing any easier.
A friend of mine said that she was going to be driving to Memphis for the funeral with other friends and asked if I wanted to come. My answer was no. I just wanted to take a break from school and get away from Southern to go home. A funeral was the last thing I had in mind. When I asked my roommate if she was going to the funeral she said she was instead of spending all her time at home even though this was the only free weekend she'd be having for a long time. She told me that if her mom died, she'd want all her friends to be able to come to the funeral and support her so that's what she was going to do for our friend.
Thinking about what she said hit me. If my mom died I would want support from friends and family. I was completely self-absorbed in what I wanted to do that I never even gave a thought to how my friend needed me. I realize now how selfish I was, and I see that selfishness is something I need God to get rid of in me. If we all spent more time caring about others like Jesus did and putting ourselves last, we'd be living in a better world.
I ended up having a fun weekend despite the unfortunate circumstances, and my friend was so grateful that I came. I'm happy that I could go and be there for her. Putting others first and yourself last is rewarding it makes you feel good inside. So let's pay less attention to our wants and start paying more attention to the needs of those around us.