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Settling In 

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12/8/2010 

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Well, we’re coming to the close of the 1st semester of this new experience and we are happy about it! I’m seeing statuses on Facebook about projects and how much work needs to be done…ahhhhh, refreshing.

There was a moment where Ryan was seriously considering changing his major, however, he thought it through and decided to stick with Film Production. We really tried to just listen and give council when solicited, for it was important for him to be able to process and come to a decision that was right for him. Prayer for God’s plan for his life was strongly encouraged as well. Next semesters classes have been registered for and we can officially say that freshman year is half over. That was quick.

As a parent, I often worry about my children, their choices and how it’s all going to come together. I made choices based on my individual circumstances when I was college age and I made some mistakes. We are now providing opportunities that we did not have and of course when you deposit, you’d like to see a decent return. Part of the reason Ryan is at Southern is because they had his major and he was able to jump right into it during this first semester. I figured that was great for the sooner he was exposed, the sooner he would know if it was really for him. We are on the “Four Year Plan” for college……. No time to waste taking classes that are not going to apply. Changing majors is fine but let’s make the decision quick! I had to pull back a little and stop panicking. I changed my major as well 3rd quarter of my freshman year in college and needless to say, it took me extra time to finish. Was it the end of the world? Well…..yes (while it was happening) but as I look back and see how my life was orchestrated and how God was the Conductor, I take a deep breath knowing that I have placed Ryan in His hands and what He did for me in my young adult years, He will also do for Ryan.

Allowing our kids to make decisions on some things is difficult because we know better, however, it is their life and we have to trust them to manage it. Yes, we pay the bills, yes we establish guidelines and criteria for the duration of their expensive stay at Southern, yes we are still providing most everything for them but that’s so they can concentrate on the business at hand. I am slowly conforming to the idea that I must give up some of the control and allow the process. He will learn some valuable life lessons during this period of his life and some may be hard for us to watch but…there is much more to come in the next 4 to 8 years so I might as well relax and enjoy the ride!

 
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Settling In
December 08, 2010

Well, we’re coming to the close of the 1st semester of this new experience and we are happy about it! I’m seeing statuses on Facebook about projects and how much work needs to be done…ahhhhh, refreshing.

There was a moment where Ryan was seriously considering changing his major, however, he thought it through and decided to stick with Film Production. We really tried to just listen and give council when solicited, for it was important for him to be able to process and come to a decision that was right for him. Prayer for God’s plan for his life was strongly encouraged as well. Next semesters classes have been registered for and we can officially say that freshman year is half over. That was quick.

As a parent, I often worry about my children, their choices and how it’s all going to come together. I made choices based on my individual circumstances when I was college age and I made some mistakes. We are now providing opportunities that we did not have and of course when you deposit, you’d like to see a decent return. Part of the reason Ryan is at Southern is because they had his major and he was able to jump right into it during this first semester. I figured that was great for the sooner he was exposed, the sooner he would know if it was really for him. We are on the “Four Year Plan” for college……. No time to waste taking classes that are not going to apply. Changing majors is fine but let’s make the decision quick! I had to pull back a little and stop panicking. I changed my major as well 3rd quarter of my freshman year in college and needless to say, it took me extra time to finish. Was it the end of the world? Well…..yes (while it was happening) but as I look back and see how my life was orchestrated and how God was the Conductor, I take a deep breath knowing that I have placed Ryan in His hands and what He did for me in my young adult years, He will also do for Ryan.

Allowing our kids to make decisions on some things is difficult because we know better, however, it is their life and we have to trust them to manage it. Yes, we pay the bills, yes we establish guidelines and criteria for the duration of their expensive stay at Southern, yes we are still providing most everything for them but that’s so they can concentrate on the business at hand. I am slowly conforming to the idea that I must give up some of the control and allow the process. He will learn some valuable life lessons during this period of his life and some may be hard for us to watch but…there is much more to come in the next 4 to 8 years so I might as well relax and enjoy the ride!

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